Relationship Recovery

Problems with your relationship?

Having problems with your husband?

Too much stress in your life?

Here is the answers to your questions!

Best-selling book “The Step-by-Step Plan For Relationship Recovery” in eBook, MP3 audio, and HD Video versions. You also get two, private, one-on-one email consultations with the team, we will answer all of your questions and adapt the relationship recovery plan to your specific case.

LINK TO BUY

Anxiety relationship

Anxiety relationship

Those who suffer from relationship anxiety will send mixed message.One moment they are warm and inviting and the next, they are distant.  They can change gears so fast that your head will spin.

But be gentle, these individuals have been through some of the worst torment in past relationships. They have learned to flip/flop emotions because the same thing was done to them.

Pursuing a romantic relationship can sometimes feel like a dangerous game. Dating requires a certain amount of vulnerability, and it comes with the risk of getting hurt or being disappointed. Because of the uncertain outcome, people can experience a fair amount of anxiety about their current romantic relationship or the hurdles of pursuing a new one.

Many people find that having an untreated anxiety disorder can affect their romantic life. People with social anxiety disorder may constantly worry how they are being judged by others, so they may avoid romantic relationships or dating in general due to the fear of embarrassment. Others with generalized anxiety disorder may have trouble with dating or managing relationships as well, as they struggle with worry about their partner abandoning them. However, it’s important to remember that you don’t have to have a diagnosed anxiety disorder for anxiety to interfere in your romantic relationship. Everyone is susceptible to day-to-day stress manifesting as worry about a relationship, fear of the dating process, or trouble communicating with a partner.

Toxic relationship

Toxic relationship

Feeling uncomfortable or tense around someone is just your body reacting to the negative energy surrounding the two of you.

Negativity can drain you mentally, physically and emotionally. We're forced to deal with this stuff, but your SO should be a reprieve from that type of stress.

There is a difference between staying in a relationship because you're comfortable and staying because you truly want to be there.

If you feel like your relationship isn't going anywhere, why waste the time? That's time you'll look back on with regret, but that you'll never be able to relive.

Once you hit your 20s, relationships are a trial run for marriage. You should be able to see potential in spending the rest of your life with your significant other because if not, what's the point?

You should want to make your SO happy, but it should be a two-way street. Your happiness should mean his or her happiness and vice versa.

If you're constantly trying to make them happy, but you're not getting anything in return, then something in the cycle is disjointed. Happiness should be mutual.

What it really comes down to is happiness. You don't have to justify why you aren't happy anymore.

It isn't realistic to expect to be happy in every moment of your relationship, but as a whole, this person should make you happier. He or she should make you feel supported and capable of doing whatever the hell it is you want to do.

You should know that even though you don't have control of every aspect of your life and things will fall apart, this person gives you stability. He or she helps you rebuild and gives you hope that things can be the way you think they should be.

If you don't have that, is it really worth it?

Relationship goals

Relationship goals

You know you’re in a good place when you can go a few days without seeing your S.O., and although you miss each other, it’s not the end of the world. This past year, I went to Spain for a week without my boyfriend. I missed him and he missed me, but we didn’t spend the whole time trying to talk or crying about how much we missed each other. It’s so important to be able to have your own lives and do your own things sometimes. Don’t get me wrong, it’s also important to experience things together, but if you’re too dependent on each other, that’s not good.

When you first start dating someone, getting into an argument with them makes you feel all sorts of nervous about whether or not the 

relationship will end because of it. After you’ve been together for a while, you realize that little arguments every once in a while are normal and aren’t the end of everything. That sounds 

depressing, but it’s actually where you want to be.

There’s something really nice about a hangout sesh with your boyfriend that involves you reading a book while he watches his show. It’s nice to be able to do your own thing while still being together. Of course, every single hangout shouldn’t be you guys doing this, but you know what I mean.

You know what’s weird? Sex. Funny, embarrassing things happen, and if you can laugh about them with your partner instead of feeling the urge to run away, you’re in a good place

There’s nothing wrong with letting the world know how you feel about bae. But when you feel the need to make a spectacle of your relationship every single day, it seems like you’re over-compensating. It seems like it’s too much. Relationships are about two people, not about the attention two people can get by making others jealous.

Healthy relationship

         Healthy relationship

If one person is more of a procrastinator while the other always gets their work done early, the other person isn’t going to try to “fix” them by pushing them to get their work done early in a healthy relationship. Both people respect one another’s differences. One doesn’t try to force the other to change or be anything different then themselves.

The reality is that nobody wants to be changed or fixed — especially if it’s unsolicited! If the person really truly wants to change, then they will ask for help on their own terms and in their own way. Change isn’t going to happen through nagging or force.

Both people share their genuine feelings with one another freely. Both partners respect and accept the other’s feelings. Expressing one another’s true feelings aren’t repressed because both partners know that by not sharing them and that by not accepting the other person’s feelings it will cause conflicts later on.

Healthy relationships are built on a foundation of communication and trust. Frequent communication with your partner will keep the relationship positive for both participants.

While it's common to want to spend all of your time together, it's important to also give each other space.

Recover a relationship

RECOVER A RELATIONSHIP

                                          

People who tell their partner what they should be doing, or when, have forgotten this deceptively simple idea.  Who says your way is the right way?  Instead of dictating, organizing or educating your partner, focus on collaborating.  Ask your partner’s opinion.  Invite him or her into your thoughts and ideas.  Be co-conspirators in creating the future you want to live together

When you were dating, you focused on each other.  Now that you have more responsibilities—children, a home, and more—it’s quite possible that you spend more energy on getting things done than you do on each other.  To recover from relationship problems, it’s critical to set aside time to attend only to each other in a way that reinforces how much you care.  Doing this might range from little rituals you create (bringing coffee to your partner in bed each morning) to spending a great deal of time learning how to do something new together.  Make sure you focus on each other, and what you choose makes you feel positive, makes you laugh, or reinforces your love

Repairing your relationship after some sort of mistake or hurt is one of the best things you can do.  But too many people unwittingly try to do this with a bad apology.  Here’s an example:  “I’m so sorry I got mad at you, but you really triggered me.”  That’s not an apology—that’s blame!  You can recognize a bad apology because it almost always includes the words "but" or "because."  Instead, apologize by owning your mistake or behavior, and putting forward a plan to help eliminate the same thing happening again in the future.

Grief is like a squall in the middle of the ocean. It comes without warning and despite how hard you try to avoid it or suppress it, you can’t. Let the tears, screams and sobs pour out of you. If you have to cry, you have to cry, just like when you’ve got to go to bathroom, you’ve got to go; you don’t have a choice, you have to release whatever’s in there.

Grief is the same way. Imagine if you held in your bodily functions, trying to keep yourself from sweating, urinating or defecating, you would harm yourself beyond repair. The same applies with holding in your grief—it will only cause you more pain.